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The Power of Loving-Kindness in Perimenopause: A Radical Act of Self-Compassion

"Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the whole cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings. By living with you, I want to learn to love everyone and all species. If I succeed in loving you, I will be able to love everyone and all species on Earth." — Thich Nhat Hanh

Hey there, friend—let’s talk about something radically healing for perimenopause self-care.

If you’re riding the rollercoaster of perimenopause mood swings, anxiety, or just feeling a little unrecognizable in your own skin, you're not alone. This phase isn’t just about hot flashes and night sweats—it’s a hormonal shake-up that can rock your confidence, your sleep, and your sense of self.

So what can help when everything feels like too much?

Loving-kindness meditation.
Yes, really. It’s not just sitting cross-legged and chanting into the void—it’s a simple, powerful practice that helps you treat yourself with the compassion you actually deserve (but maybe forgot you did).

Why Loving-Kindness (Metta) Matters in Perimenopause

Let’s be real—when your hormones are acting like toddlers on a sugar high, self-compassion can feel like a far-off fantasy. But loving-kindness meditation is the antidote to that inner critic who’s been extra loud lately.

Also called Metta Bhavana, this practice helps rewire your brain for resilience, calm, and connection. It’s especially powerful for perimenopausal anxiety relief and emotional health because it:

✅ Calms the stress that comes from feeling like a walking mood swing
✅ Shuts down that snarky voice in your head calling your body “too much” or “not enough”
✅ Soothes racing thoughts so you can actually get some sleep
✅ Builds emotional strength when everything else feels like it’s unraveling

This isn’t magic—but it can be life-changing.

You Are the Hero of Your Perimenopause Journey

A lot of us try to muscle through this season with a “just keep going” attitude. We treat our symptoms like enemies, our changing bodies like problems to fix, and ourselves like afterthoughts.

But what if you stopped fighting it?

What if perimenopause wasn’t the beginning of the end—but the start of a deeper relationship with yourself?

Loving-kindness isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about saying, “This is hard—and I still deserve gentleness.” It’s how you shift from self-judgment to self-respect, from burnout to balance.

How to Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation (Metta Bhavana)

No incense or yoga pants required—just your breath and a few simple phrases.

1️⃣ Start with Yourself

Find a quiet space (or the car, bathroom, or laundry room—whatever works). Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Then repeat:

💛 May I be happy.
💛 May I be healthy.
💛 May I be safe.
💛 May I live with ease.

If these words feel weird or uncomfortable, that’s okay. Keep going. The kindness starts to stick.

2️⃣ Someone You Love

Picture someone you adore—your BFF, your kid, your dog. Repeat:

💛 May you be happy.
💛 May you be healthy.
💛 May you be safe.
💛 May you live with ease.

3️⃣ Someone Neutral

Think of someone you see but don’t know well—maybe the grocery clerk or your neighbor who never waves back.

💛 May you be happy.
💛 May you be healthy.
💛 May you be safe.
💛 May you live with ease.

4️⃣ Someone You Struggle With

This part? Not easy. But it’s the most transformative.

Picture someone who’s triggered you (gently). Then, offer them the same words:

💛 May you be happy.
💛 May you be healthy.
💛 May you be safe.
💛 May you live with ease.

You’re not doing it for them—you’re doing it to lighten your own load.

5️⃣ All Beings Everywhere

Now, expand that love out to everyone:

💛 May all beings be happy.
💛 May all beings be healthy.
💛 May all beings be safe.
💛 May all beings live with ease.

Even five minutes of this a day can shift your nervous system and your whole mood. Seriously—try it when you’re spiraling at 3 AM.

Bringing Loving-Kindness Into Your Daily Life

You don’t have to sit on a meditation cushion for this to work. You can sprinkle it into your day like salt on roasted veggies:

✨ Morning mantra: “I treat myself with kindness—especially when I want to scream into a pillow.”
✨ Self-compassion pause: When you mess up or snap at someone, ask, “What would I say to my best friend right now?”
✨ Gratitude journal: Even if it’s “Thank you, legs, for hauling me through the day.”
✨ Cup of tea = meditation: Sip slowly. Breathe deeply. Don’t scroll.
✨ Kindness to others: A smile, a compliment, a “thinking of you” text. Bonus: it lifts your spirits, too.

Personal Story: The Day it Clicked

I had one of those days—you know the kind. I was cranky, exhausted, and spiraling over everything from my skin to my to-do list. Nothing was working. I felt like a walking hormone bomb.

Instead of numbing out, I tried loving-kindness. (Okay, reluctantly tried it.)

At first, the words felt forced. But halfway through, I noticed my breath softening. My chest unclenching. My brain slowing down. For the first time that day, I felt okay.

Not perfect. Not fixed. But okay.

And sometimes, that’s everything.

Final Thoughts: Self-Compassion is Your Superpower

Let’s face it—perimenopause is weird. Your body changes, your brain rewires, and some days you feel like a stranger in your own skin.

But you’re not broken.
You’re evolving.

Loving-kindness gives you a soft place to land in the middle of the mess. It reminds you that you’re worthy of care, patience, and tenderness—especially from yourself.

So here’s your loving-kindness challenge:

👉 What’s one kind thing you can say to yourself right now?
Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear it. 💛

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Hormonally yours,

Kimberlee Erin