
Is It Me or My Hormones? Emotional Numbness, Freak-Outs & the Midlife Mind
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Is It Me or My Hormones? Emotional Numbness, Freak-Outs & the Midlife Mind
âMy mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.â ~ Maya Angelou
Letâs be real: perimenopause can mess with your emotions in ways no one warns you about. One minute youâre totally flat, watching a sad scene with zero tears. The next, youâre rage-crying because someone gave you the finger in traffic. (Rude, sir.)
Welcome to the emotional plot twist of midlifeâwhere the spark can fizzle, joy feels out of reach, and youâre wondering, Is it me? Or is this just hormonal chaos?
Spoiler: Itâs the hormones. But also? Youâre not alone. And no, youâre not broken.
The Emotional Numbness Nobody Talks About
This isnât your classic mood swing. Itâs that weird, unsettling numbnessâlike your feelings are on airplane mode. A friendâs loss doesnât register, but burnt dinner sends you spiraling. You want to care, but⌠you donât. You want to feel joy, but sadness lingers instead.
This is more common than you thinkâand it's not a moral failing or lack of empathy. Itâs your brain and hormones doing a messy midlife dance.
Estrogen: The Quiet Conductor of Your Feelings
Estrogen isnât just about periods and hot flashes. Itâs your brainâs behind-the-scenes BFF, regulating three major mood-related chemicals:
Serotonin (your âfeel goodâ neurotransmitter): When estrogen drops, so does serotonin. Translation? Hello, sadness, irritability, and disinterest in things you used to love.
Dopamine (your motivation + reward chemical): Less estrogen = less drive, less joy, more âmeh.â
Norepinephrine (your focus + stress responder): Estrogen helps keep it in check. Without it, you may swing between anxiety and emotional shutdown.
No wonder youâre weepy over spilled coffee and totally dead inside at the family BBQ.
The Freak-Out Factor: Why Small Things Hit Hard
Hormonal shifts lower your emotional thresholdâespecially when you're sleep-deprived (hello, 3 AM spiraling). That âtinyâ triggerâburned toast, bad driver, forgotten birthday textâhits like a truck because your nervous system is already fried.
Itâs not that youâre overreacting. Itâs that your bandwidth is shot.
Mind-Body Mayhem: When Emotions Go Physical
Perimenopause doesnât just mess with your mindâit hijacks your body too. Ever notice how gut issues, joint pain, or fatigue amplify your emotional struggle?
Thatâs the mind-body connection in action. When your bodyâs inflamed, overloaded, or exhausted, your brain can't regulate emotions the way it used to.
This is why yoga, breathwork, and gentle movement matter. Not for the Instagram aestheticâbut because they help calm your overworked nervous system and give your brain a moment to breathe.
Even 5 minutes of childâs pose or belly breathing can shift you from "why do I feel so disconnected?" to "okay, maybe Iâm not totally unraveling."
So What Can You Actually Do?
Hereâs what helps when your emotions are all over the placeâor totally missing in action.
đ§ 1. Know Itâs Not All in Your Head
Hormones. Neurotransmitters. Fatigue. Youâre not imagining it. And youâre definitely not alone.
đŹ 2. Talk to Someone Who Gets It
Therapists (especially those who specialize in womenâs health) can help untangle the overwhelm. CBT and mindfulness-based therapies are especially effective.
đ§ 3. Do Less, Feel More
Slow, mindful movement like yoga, stretching, or even walking can rewire your nervous system. Breathwork is free, powerful, and hormone-friendly.
đł 4. Feed Your Brain
Protein, healthy fats, and fiber-rich foods stabilize blood sugar and support neurotransmitter production. (Burnt toast... not so much.)
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đż 5. Explore Natural and Hormonal Support
Magnesium glycinate. Saffron. B-complex. Or even bioidentical hormones if thatâs right for you. Work with a practitioner who knows midlife womenâyour needs are not one-size-fits-all.
When to Reach Out for Help
If youâve been stuck in emotional numbness or despair for weeks, please donât brush it off. Red flags include:
Loss of interest in things you once loved
Changes in sleep or appetite
Feelings of hopelessness
Thoughts of self-harm
Seeking help isnât weakness. Itâs courage in action.
Your Brainâs in FluxâBut Youâre Still You
Youâre not ungrateful. Youâre not cold. Youâre not âtoo sensitive.â Youâre navigating one of the biggest hormonal transitions of your lifeâwithout a manual, and probably while managing a million other responsibilities.
Thereâs no shame in feeling numb. Or weepy. Or ragey. Thereâs only grace in acknowledging itâand strength in choosing to care for yourself anyway.
You are still in there. Even if you donât feel like yourself right now. You are whole, worthy, and wildly capable of healing.
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Hormonally Yours,
Kimberlee Erin
Just a heads-up: Iâm a Certified Menopause Coaching Specialist and Holistic Nutritionist, and while I love sharing whatâs worked for me and my clients, this blog is for informational purposes only. Itâs not a substitute for medical advice. Always check in with your healthcare provider before starting new supplements, hormones, or treatmentsâespecially since every womanâs perimenopause journey is different. You deserve personalized care that truly fits you.