“Menopause is the springtime of our wisdom.” – Margaret Mead, anthropologist

10 Essential Questions About Perimenopause You Absolutely Need to Ask Your Doctor

Let's be honest—navigating perimenopause can feel like riding an emotional and physical rollercoaster blindfolded. Between the hot flashes, mood swings, and confusion about what’s "normal," it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or dismissed.

Why It’s Important to Be Your Own Advocate

But here's the deal: your experiences are valid, your questions matter, and you deserve clarity, support, and answers. One of the best ways to take control of your perimenopause journey is to come prepared when meeting your doctor. Being your own advocate means asking smart, informed questions and insisting on thorough answers.

10 Must-Ask Questions for Your Doctor

Not sure where to start? I’ve got you covered. Here are 10 essential questions to ask your healthcare provider:

1. What exactly are common perimenopause symptoms, and what are the best ways to manage them?

2. How can I tell if what I’m experiencing is "normal" or if it needs further investigation?

3. What specific tests or screenings can help confirm perimenopause and rule out other health conditions?

4. What treatments or therapies are available to help manage symptoms like hot flashes, mood swings, and vaginal dryness?

5. Can we discuss hormone therapy—what are its benefits, risks, and is it appropriate for my situation?

6. Are there lifestyle adjustments or natural remedies that could ease my symptoms and support my overall health?

7. How will perimenopause affect my sexual health, and what can I do to keep intimacy comfortable and enjoyable?

8. What should I be doing right now to protect my bone density, heart health, and long-term wellness?

9. How frequently should I schedule appointments to keep track of my health during this transitional period?

10. Can you recommend any resources, groups, or support systems to help me better understand and manage perimenopause?

My Personal Experience: Finding the Right Doctor

When I started my own perimenopause journey, I knew how crucial it was to find a doctor who truly understood women's hormones and menopause. I did my research, found the expert I wanted, and confidently told my doctor, "This is where I want to be referred to." No questions asked.

Tips for a Successful Doctor’s Visit

"It's time to stop normalizing the suffering in menopause." ~ Dr. Sharon Malone

Remember, these questions are just a launching point. Feel free to dive deeper into topics that concern you personally. No question is too small or insignificant, so speak up and own your appointment!

If you feel rushed, dismissed, or unheard, it's completely okay to seek another opinion or find a specialist who truly listens. Bring a notepad, ask for written materials, or even take a trusted friend along—whatever helps you feel confident and supported.

Also, don’t underestimate the power of education. Reading books and educating yourself about perimenopause will boost your confidence and equip you to recognize when your doctor isn’t stepping up.

Trust Yourself—You Know Your Body Best!

Ultimately, you know your body best. Trust your instincts, honor your experiences, and demand the care you deserve. Perimenopause isn’t just something to "get through"—it's a powerful opportunity to advocate fiercely for your health and happiness.

So, breathe deeply, stand tall, and unleash that inner warrior goddess. You've totally got this!

Keep asking, keep believing, and keep shining,

Hormonally Yours,

Kimberlee Erin

Just a heads-up: I’m a Certified Menopause Coaching Specialist and Holistic Nutritionist, and while I love sharing what’s worked for me and my clients, this blog is for informational purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical advice. Always check in with your healthcare provider before starting new supplements, hormones, or treatments—especially since every woman’s perimenopause journey is different. You deserve personalized care that truly fits you.